Unbecoming

This morning, I opened my inbox expecting the usual—a job rejection, maybe a notification that someone from high school endorsed me for “Microsoft Excel” on LinkedIn. You know, the classics.

Instead, I got a message from Caleigh Rose.

Now, normally when someone says “I saw your TED Talk with God,” I assume it’s sarcasm… or maybe a recruiter trying to pitch me on a franchise. But Caleigh was different. She wasn’t selling a program. She wasn’t inviting me to a 3-part webinar series with a downloadable PDF. No, she was offering something real:

Encouragement.

She said, “The person you are becoming or unbecoming is the purpose of the path.”

And y’all… I paused. Closed my tabs. Looked up from the screen like I had just heard God whisper, “Take notes.”

Because here’s the truth: I’ve been unbecoming a lot lately.

Unbecoming the version of myself that tied his worth to a job title.

Unbecoming the guy who stayed silent in interviews just to be “likable.”

Unbecoming the overachiever who thought burnout was a badge of honor.

And I gotta say—it’s messy. Unbecoming doesn’t come with a user manual. There’s no step-by-step guide. One day you’re rewriting your résumé for the fifteenth time, the next you’re crying over a commercial with a golden retriever. Growth is weird.

Caleigh gets it. She’s been on a journey where the road didn’t make sense to anyone but her—and instead of giving up, she turned that journey into music. Her debut album is called Unbecoming—and I haven’t even listened yet, but I already know it’s going to hurt in the best way.

That’s the power of someone who’s walked it.

And honestly? That message reminded me of something I keep forgetting:

Sometimes God doesn’t send a miracle—He sends a message through a stranger who’s been where you are. And it’s not wrapped in glitter or grandeur. It just says, “Keep going. This path is doing something in you.”

So if you’re out there right now…

Unemployed.

Undervalued.

Overqualified and underpaid.

Burnt out from being “almost chosen.”

Take a breath.

Maybe the job hasn’t come yet because the person you’re becoming isn’t meant to settle for the next thing—but to create the next thing.

Maybe you’re unbecoming the version of you that the world rewarded…

…so you can become the version that actually feels like home.

And if all else fails, listen to Caleigh’s album and cry into your coffee. That counts as healing too.

Thanks, Caleigh.

You reminded me that this path I’m on isn’t broken.

It’s just under construction.